Our Kids Aren’t Products of Us. They Are Us.

We like to think our children are their own people. 

And of course, they are. 

But they are also… us.

Not in the sense that they mimic our behaviors or reflect our values — though they often do. 

More than that: they carry what we refused to heal. They hold the vibration of our unresolved. 

They are, quite literally, the continuation of our frequency.

And when something in us says I’m not ready to face that, 

it echoes in their bodies: 

“Then I will.”

Symptoms Are Always Looking for an Exit

Symptoms don’t appear out of nowhere. They’re attempts — the body’s way of moving stuck energy, unmetabolized emotion, and generational pain out.

They’re always looking for an exit.

And they will either move down and out — in the direction of cure — or they will be pushed up and in, where they become more chronic, more mental, more suppressed.

If you’ve ever wondered how a child ends up carrying your burden (or how you're carrying your parents'), this is it.

When your body couldn’t fully resolve something — an emotional trauma, an infection, a grief — it often tries to complete that process by moving it down and out: 

through sperm, through egg, through the womb, and into the body of your child.

And that’s still healing. 

Still the vital force trying to complete its work. 

It just didn’t get the chance in you — so it tries again through them.

This isn’t something to blame yourself for. 

This is how healing happens when there wasn’t space for it before.

But once it reappears — in your child’s skin, their stomach, their dreams — 

you’re still being invited to help it move.

And this time, you don’t have to do it alone.

Inherited Shadows Aren’t Always Genetic

Even in adoptions, step-families, or unconventional lineages, the mirroring still happens. 

Why?

Because the universe — or your vital force, or God, or however you name it — doesn’t pair us randomly. 

We’re always in resonance with what we still need to see. 

And our children? They are that seeing.

Not punishment. Not karma. Not divine retribution. 

Just… truth.

Attention is the Original Medicine

What every human wants — from birth to death — is attention.

Not control. Not even comfort. 

Attention.

We learn early that certain parts of us get attention and others don’t. 

We bury the parts that get ignored. We sharpen the ones that get a reaction. 

And in doing so, we form the pattern of a lifetime:

“This is who I have to be to get seen.”

It’s rarely conscious. But it is powerful.

And when that unacknowledged pattern gets passed to a child —

during gestation, in utero, through behavior, through suppression, through avoidance — 

it doesn’t disappear. It just changes hands.

And gets your attention.

This Isn’t Your Fault — But It Is Yours to Hold

You didn’t cause your child’s dysregulation. 

You didn’t ask to pass on an imprint of loss, or fear, or illness, or rage.

But if it’s in front of you now, 

you’ve been given the chance to complete a healing you didn’t even know you started.

So when you see your child’s symptoms — 

their fear, their fire, their flares — 

don’t rush to fix it. 

Be with it.

Because the deeper truth may be: 

You didn’t want to heal that. 

They did. 

And now you both can.

Beneath the chaos is a call to healing. Here’s how to begin responding — not just reacting.

Here are seven ways to meet the mirror with compassion — and move toward healing, not blame.

1. How do you know it’s you?

Simple: you’re triggered. 

If your child’s emotion hits something primal in you — anger, fear, shame, helplessness — it’s likely reflecting an unresolved wound of your own.

Ask:

• What am I feeling about their behavior?

• When have I felt this way before?

• What am I afraid this says about me?

Your child didn’t cause the feeling — they revealed it. That’s the difference.

2. Be the mirror on purpose.

Instead of reacting, reflect.

“That makes sense.” 

“I feel that too sometimes.” 

“Can you show me where it lives in your body?”

Let your child be seen — not fixed. That’s where healing begins.

3. Track the pattern.

When a symptom or behavior arises, ask:

• When did it begin?

• What else was happening in the home, the lineage, the womb?

• Is this familiar… even if unspoken?

Don’t underestimate what your body knows — or what your child has absorbed.

4. Revisit the attention pattern.

Every child — and every adult — is wired to seek attention. It’s not vanity. It’s survival.

Ask:

• What does your child do that gets them the most attention consistently?

• What got you attention as a child?

• What parts of yourself did you have to mute or magnify to stay connected?

What we do to be seen becomes who we think we are. 

And often, our kids carry that same imprint.

5. Stop trying to get rid of the “bad” parts.

What if the outburst, the rash, the regression isn’t a problem — but a process?

In homeopathy, suppression (with meds, distractions, or even mindset hacks) can push a symptom deeper — from skin to stomach, from body to brain, from body to behavior.

So instead of “how do I fix this,” try: 

“What wants to move here?”

6. Breathe before responding.

Three seconds. That’s all. 

A pause creates space between the trigger and your trauma — between your child’s moment and your history.

Most of what feels urgent isn’t.

7. Work with a homeopath — for both of you.

Because yes, this goes deeper than parenting tips.

In homeopathy, we understand that trauma — especially unhealed emotional trauma — gets passed down. 

Not just behaviorally, but energetically. 

This is miasmatic inheritance: the vibrational residue of unresolved pain, illness, or suppression passed from one generation to the next.

And here’s the wild part: When a parent heals, a child often improves too. 

When a child receives the right remedy, the parent sometimes weeps. 

The field shifts — for both.

Homeopathy doesn’t just treat symptoms. It treats the story behind them. And sometimes, it’s your story your child is carrying.

In service to the highest good,

Lindsay